Thursday, August 29, 2013

Business Times Article: How Well Are You Balancing Your Life And Work?



Without breaks to the routine flow of work and life we become burned out, fatigued and overwhelmed, reducing the quality of everything we do on a daily basis. One of the keys to happiness and success is to keep yourself refreshed and at your best.

Many business owners and their team members never stop working. While it might not appear they’re working outside business operations, they’re thinking incessantly about their responsibilities and new opportunities and worrying about the past, the future, competition and the economy. They never truly give themselves a rest.

These thoughts often interrupt sleep and eating patterns, exercise routines, personal and professional relationships, hobbies, and further learning and growth. In general, these thoughts limit happiness and success. Little by little, these seemingly minor disruptions will destroy you and the quality of your life. When all you do is work, many wonderful and necessary things in life go by the wayside.

            I recently returned from a nearly three-week long vacation in the Pacific Northwest during which I consciously stepped away from my coaching and consulting business. I only responded to a few urgent calls from clients. I also stopped my social networking. In other words, I took a break from my business life and fully engaged my private life.

            This was not always my choice in the past. During the first couple years of business I took little time away. I was so focused on meeting the needs of my clients, and on meeting the growing demand for my services, that I often forgot about myself.

I began to feel tired and recognized that I had to work even harder to keep up my best effort. I was running out of steam, so to speak. While my passion for my work as a coach and consultant did not fade, I found myself losing my life to some degree. That is not why I became a business owner.

            Consciousness of your particular situation is your best friend here. Take a few moments to ask yourself these important questions:

  • Are you a workaholic?
  • Do you often allow thoughts of business to occupy your mind as a loved one is talking with you?
  • Are you frequently woken by thoughts of work?
  • Do you tell yourself and others that you can’t step away from your business?
  • Do you feel exhausted?
  • Are you happy?

             In truth, there are occasions in running a business where extra time is needed to effectively deal with situations. However, if this is the norm rather than the exception, I encourage you to take an honest look at your situation and make necessary adjustments that will allow you to experience a fuller and more meaningful life.

On your way to reaching new heights in life and business, it is imperative for you to take time to truly enjoy your life and the fruits of your labor.

The benefits are many when you choose to live your life outside of business. And, you don’t even need to go on a vacation to do this! By bringing structure and focus to the time you spend in your business or career, you actually free yourself to fully engage both your personal and professional life.

An example of this would be making a commitment to yourself - and perhaps to those closest to you - that you will begin and end your business day by a certain time, say 9am & 5pm. Then follow through on your promise. By doing so, you are also committing to not work between 5pm & 9am each day. With this little bit of structure in place and your commitment to it, you will bring greater focus to your business, the quality of your work will increase, and you will actually accomplish more as you become a better manager of your work time.

Taking actions that allows you to spend more quality time with family and friends will improve your relationships and your life. Making time to exercise, and engage in hobbies and activities you most enjoy will relax your mind and body as you break from business. Your sleep will improve, your energy will grow and you will become happier and more successful as you bring balance and refreshment to both your personal and professional lives.

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Coaching Tip #957 "Today"


Moment by moment, your past is being built and your future is being paved by your actions. Be the best person you can be today. Reach for excellence in all you think, say and do. Keep the door open to a bright future for yourself and others. Let the happiness and success you desire guide you along your journey. Find the joy in your life, and be a joy to others. Build good memories. Today is the most important day in your life, simply because, it is the only day you have. Live it fully.

Monday, August 26, 2013

Coaching Tip #956 "Perspective"



It’s not the winds of change, and life’s ups and downs that have the greatest impact on your reality. Rather, it is your thoughts about yourself and your circumstances that have the greatest effect on the quality of your life. Your mindset or perspective determines your thoughts, actions and how you feel, literally from moment to moment. The more positive your outlook is, the better your life is. No matter what comes your way, be grateful for the fact you are still here and have the ability to make the most of your situation - find a way to see the best in your reality. In truth, your glass is as full as you believe it to be.

Friday, August 23, 2013

Coaching Tip #955 "Add to Your Happiness"



Each day there are people, circumstances and events that make being happy very easy. They provide us with things we want, like and value. And, they do so without any problems, difficulties or pain associated. When the moments of your life add to your happiness in this manner, enjoy the simple pleasure of it. Life is filled with challenges that help you reach your potential, but your life also contains easy and sweet experiences that can add greatly to your happiness, if you let them.

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Coaching Tip #954 "Be You"



What aspects of yourself would you express if, just for today, you choose not to worry about what others think - to not fear the opinions of others? Then, consider why you would not allow yourself to be who you really are simply because of what others might or might not think. When you suppress who you really are to avoid the possible negative opinions of others you are, in essence, allowing them to define you, and determine who you are. If you don't want to give others this power over you and your life, then just for today, choose to express the real you. Doing so may be scary, but you will feel liberated and the opinions you feared may be much more positive than you assumed they would be.

Monday, August 19, 2013

Coaching Tip #953 "Your Happiness"



While it is true that there are people and experiences that challenge your ability to be happy, it is not true that they actually take your happiness away. When you feel the wave of unhappiness begin to wash over you, catch yourself, and choose to place your focus on the undeniable gifts in your life. Getting grateful in the face of difficult people and circumstances brings you back to reality in a positive way, and positions you to take the reins of your happiness. Outside forces can add to or make happiness easier to maintain, but it is truly an inside job - thus the term, “your happiness”.